Dealing with Offense
The church (unfortunately) can be a breeding ground for offense. I’m not sure why. Maybe it is because we get more personal with each other. Maybe it’s unreal expectations that we have for one another. Whatever the reason, it happens to all of us sooner or later. We are human. In our daily lives, offense can come in many forms—comments made in jest, misunderstandings, or even outright hostility. The key here is that, if we consider ourselves to be born again believers, we need to deal with it properly and biblically. The Bible offers profound wisdom on how to navigate the feelings of being offended and how to respond in a way that reflects our faith.
Understanding Offense
The first step in dealing with offense is to acknowledge that you are offended and that feeling hurt is a natural human response. Even the most righteous among us can be offended. In Matthew 18:7, Jesus says, “Woe to the world because of offenses! For offenses must come, but woe to that man by whom the offense comes!” This verse reminds us that while offenses are inevitable, how we choose to respond to them is critical.
Responding with Grace
When we feel offended, our instinct may be to retaliate or harbor resentment. To gossip about the offending person or slander their name. These actions and the associated feelings come from our flesh, not from God. Ephesians 4:31-32 encourages us to “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” This passage emphasizes the importance of forgiveness. Rather than allowing offense to fester, we are called to extend grace to others, just as we have received grace.
The Power of Communication
In cases where the offense is significant, communication can be a powerful tool. Matthew 18:15 instructs, “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.” Addressing the issue directly, yet lovingly, can often resolve misunderstandings and prevent bitterness from taking root. And understand the idea behind this interaction is to go to another person WITH THE HEART of wanting the relationship to be restored. WITH THE HEART AND DESIRE to see the issue resolved.
Seeking God’s Wisdom
When we are offended, it’s vital to turn to God for wisdom and guidance. James 1:5 reassures us, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” Prayer can provide clarity, allowing us to see the situation from a different perspective and respond in a way that honors God.
Cultivating a Heart of Humility
Finally, it’s essential to cultivate a heart of humility. Philippians 2:3-4 teaches, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” When we remember to consider the feelings and perspectives of others, we can diffuse potential offenses before they escalate.
Conclusion
Being offended is an unavoidable part of life, but how we respond can transform our relationships and our hearts. By practicing forgiveness, communicating openly, seeking God’s guidance, and embracing humility, we can navigate offense with grace. In doing so, we not only honor God but also reflect His love to those around us. Let us strive to be peacemakers, cultivating an environment of understanding and compassion, even in the face of offense.
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